The holidays are a time when family and friends get together to celebrate. But with so many people in one place, there can be a lot of stress. Here are 10 commandments for dealing with in-laws over the holidays:
1. Don’t take it personally
Just because someone is acting irritated or petty doesn’t mean they don’t care about you and your family.
2. Try to relax and enjoy yourself
It might seem like things will be chaotic, but eventually, everything will calm down.
3. Make sure you have all the necessary information before the holiday party starts happening
Once everyone starts talking and leaving abruptly, it’s hard to find your way back into the conversation (and corral any leftovers).
4. Try to keep communication open during the party
Text or email instead of calling repeatedly asking where everyone is. This way everyone can stay organized without having to shout at each other.
5. Don’t give away your prized possessions
Even if your hosts insist on giving them out as gifts, don’t let them know that you want one – chances are they won’t bring it up again.
6. If an argument seems inevitable…
Try taking a step back and remembering why these gatherings always feel so stressful in the first place: We all just want our loved ones to be happy, no matter what.
7. Letting go of grudges isn’t easy
Doing so could really help ease some of the tension throughout the holiday season.
8. Remember that family is important…
no matter how dysfunctional we might think they are sometimes.
9. Most important of all: Have fun!
Despite appearances, families do get along once in a while.
10. Last but not least…
It’s important to remember that not everyone is going to be happy all the time. It’s okay to have your ups and downs during the holidays, but it’s important not to let them take over your entire experience. Be open-minded about what everyone is doing and try not to get too wrapped up in what others are saying about your holiday celebrations.