If you have kids, you are of course going to be keen that they are developing as much as possible as often as you can. This is something that is always going to be important because it is fundamental in ensuring that they are growing as people and into fully formed adults ultimately. So when it comes to this, you might be wondering what you can do to help your kids develop as much as possible. As it happens, there are a lot of things to consider on that front.
In this post, we are going to take you through some of the major ways in which you can hope to help your kids develop more and more. As long as you are thinking about the following, you will find that your children are able to turn into exactly the kinds of adults you want them to be. So let’s see what can be involved in this process.
Support A Growth Mindset
You might have heard in recent years about the psychological concept of scarcity mindsets versus growth mindsets. Essentially, with the former you have a general worldview that believes that things are scarce and that they are therefore hard to get – whether it’s money, security, love, or whatever else. And a growth mindset is the opposite – the integral, inner belief that all things are possible and that you are able to get pretty much anything you want.
The truth is that these are often unconscious, and you will need to first make them conscious if you are going to improve upon them. And when it comes to your children, it goes without saying that you probably want them to have a growth mindset most of all. This is going to mean that they don’t assume things are hard to get – and just not having that assumption can really make it easier for them to get what they need.
So to support a growth mindset in your children, what can you do? One way is simply to provide them with all the love and care you can because these things are often related to the form of attachment a child has in early life. You will also be surprised at how much they pick up this kind of thing from you, so that is something that you are going to be able to think about too. If you yourself have a good mindset, that is more likely to pass on.
However you do it, it’s worth it, so you should definitely think about it. Your child is going to be more likely to start life off in the right frame of mind, and that can make a world of difference.
Encourage Their Natural Curiosity
You will find that your children are probably naturally curious because we pretty much all are when we are young, and even into adulthood if we have not been made to think that curiosity is a bad thing. If you are keen for your children to develop as best as they can, however, it’s a wise move to try and encourage their natural curiosity as best as you can, because this is the kind of thing that is going to make a huge difference overall to their development internally.
So how can you do this? It’s all about letting them ask questions, and encouraging them to ask them. You can take them on field trips, show them new and interesting things, and anything else that you might think is helpful here. On the whole, it’s something that you are going to definitely find helps your child feel so much better about themselves and the world.
The more curious your children are allowed to be, the better, in general, they will be for it.
Teach Them To Care
You’ll also want to make sure that you are helping to develop a lot of care in your child, because a caring child is going to become a compassionate adult, and the world definitely needs more of those. So it’s definitely wise to try and teach them to care, which you will probably find is about encouraging the natural caring ability that is already present in them. This is the kind of thing that can really make a huge difference in their life, so it’s really important to think about.
How can you teach your child to care? One way is to get a pet for the family and involve your child in the process of looking after that animal. So you might want to get a dog and then make sure that they are going to be involved in the acts of walking them and feeding them and so on. You may find that they take to it naturally, laying down cold pressed dog food and running around with them at will. Or you might need to encourage them a little. Either way, this is something you will certainly want to think about.
You might be amazed at how much it can help to have a pet in the family home, and what this can do for the development of your children in many ways, not just this one. It really is incredible what a difference it can make.
Focus On Improving
Whatever kinds of natural innate skills and abilities your child has – and they will have a few like anyone else – you will of course want to develop and improve these as best as you can. In general, it is actually a lot better to help them simply improve what they have than trying to prove themselves in lots of other ways. If you are just trying to get them to compete better or something like that, this might not lead to the same kind of quality of development overall, and you might find that you regret doing that. So you should absolutely make sure that you are avoiding this problem by focusing on improving rather than proving it.
You will find that your child also feels a lot more appreciated in this way, and there is no doubt that this is a great feeling for them to have. So make sure that you are thinking about that and that you are aiming to help them improve in whatever they already have going on – which is probably a lot.
Be Careful With Language
It’s really quite amazing how the language you use can influence your child and what they take to be possible. If you want to make sure that you are helping them to be the best version of themselves, it’s really worth thinking about how you are talking around them and asking what you can do to ensure that you are speaking around them in an encouraging way. They will pay attention to what you say more than you think, so it’s something that you really need to think about.
For instance, if they overhear you always talking about how difficult life is, this is going to have an effect in the long term on how they approach life in general. It’s amazing how much this can happen, so you should certainly try to avoid that if you can. Of course, from time to time we all say things that are not ideal, but the point is to try to avoid making a pattern of it.
If you can do those things, you’ll find that you are encouraging your kids to develop a lot more.